What's Your (INspiring) Story: Caroline Ng & Love

I have featured Eric Lee in the last post of this series. And I think it's only fair to feature the other half of this 'love birds' duo, and also my online khaki - Caroline Ng. 

I have known Caroline through the powerful online world - Twitter to be exact. Then I found out that she & her now bf have first started their long distance relationship online. I thought that was cool. And seeing how the duo has progressed is kinda inspiring.


So when I invited her, I mentioned.. how bout sharing her love story. Well, she did. And this, is her story..

Hahaha! Ok I don't think this is something inspiring but I just wanted to share my thoughts and thanks to Quachee for featuring me here. People around me wouldn't believe that if I don't have a boyfriend. Yes, they're that silly. Just until the day I broke up with my former boyfriend and stay single for more than a year. To be honest, I love and enjoyed being single, I feel the freedom and get to do things I want and hang out with friends. It didn't takes long to cure my broken heart and all thanks to families and friends for making me realize life goes on no matter what. After all, it's not worth to feeling sad just for a guy.

How do we actually started? Both Eric and I met through blogging. Like most of my online friends, that's practically how we met each other. I would say our love story begin in a twist as reason we got together is slightly complicated. We used to argue a lot as both came up with different opinions in almost everything. Both of us always teased each other and our arguments could even end up everywhere from msn to facebook to twitter and even blog! That's how worst we were at that time when we haven't get together yet.

Am not sure when and why I fell in love with him...Most probably it's because the way he guided me and being the one who always listened to my "complaints" and also the one who I can bully?? Alright, just joking for the last part. I remember there's one time he tried to avoid from talking to me, and later I found out it's because of he afraid I would mad at him and will not talk to him or hate him. While me the other side thought I have done something wrong to him and found out what a stupid misunderstanding between us! Since then, we always talking to each other till the day he confessed his feeling for me.

Long distance relationship. Although at first am so reluctant to accept him as we are staying apart from each other ( west and east Malaysia ) , am glad we started. Most of the time, we only keep in touch through msn, video calls, phone calls and sms-es. He might be far from me at that time, but he is always there to talk to me especially when I needed him the most. People will not believe in love through cyber world, especially my parent, they worried if I get cheated and will be heart broken again. Nothing is impossible and what I can say is everything needs time to prove it.

Insecurity. Being in love again is different thing, having such insecurity feeling is another different thing I would say. Who don't wish to have someone special to be just right beside you all the time? Why would we started a relationship and it's a long distance one? I admit that I've been haunted by the insecurities since I started with Eric and it bothered me a lot till I have to tell it to him. Then, I realized that am not the only one, Eric himself too. There's nothing that we can do but trusting each other. Trust is really important in every relationship, everyone knows that.

Arguments. Relationship without any argument is boring to me. It sounded nice without argument, but I don't believe such thing no arguments in any discussions.It's the same thing to both Eric and I. We argued about things for several times, one thing am glad is each arguments ended with solutions. We are not those people who rather just forget about it and pretend nothing happened, things will just get worse when it happened repeatedly. I had to admit that there's one argument till up to the point that I don't feel like talking to him but things get better and we get to know and understand each other better.

Lastly, I am not saying I am good in relationship thingy, but there's a thing that people should know that relationship that developed through online world CAN BE REAL. It just the matter how you take it and judge it. It is a challenge for both Eric and I to be in a long distance relationship especially we are just in the beginning stage. It is definitely not an easy thing, you have to slowly build up the trust and how you going to make your partner to trust you; jealousy comes to you when you know your partner hanging out with opposite gender; when you're telling people your partner is so far apart from you, people tend to telling you that you won't know if he/she just trying to play around with your feelings; when you feel helpless and you wish your partner is just right beside you but he/she is not there, and lots more. Maybe you would love to read Eric's opinion in DISTANCE too.

We may not the perfect example for long distance relationship but at least we made it till now. Time flies fast and our relationship reach one year anniversary on this coming 18th July! Future is unpredictable and anything could happen, there's no guarantee that he is going to be my husband in the future. However, I believe in one thing, we will never know if we never try and when we are trying, just make sure we make the best of us in it so there will be no regret at the end. Of course, I wish he can be the one who complete me. :)

Am not denying the fact that I love and enjoyed being single. To have someone special in your love to share happiness,sadness and thoughts and giving you supports is always better. Just like what they said, two is better than one.